Hi all! I have a quick, fun post today about types of parents in books. Some of these I hate, some I like, let’s just get right to it…
Non-Absent Absentee Parents– gosh I hate these ones- they’re there, but they’re not quite *there*. They are totally oblivious to things like their daughter becoming a vampire or stupidly manage to somehow invite a sexual predator to come live with them (hello Saint Anything– yes I’m talking to you!) Easily confused with…
Cool Cat Parents– you know the type: the I’m-so-cool-I’m-basically-your-sister ones. Not gonna lie, I find these ones irritating too. Because arghhh can’t they just be a parent for one second?! But no, they’re too busy being “scatty” (another word for useless) and marrying some sporty guy to actually be of some use (yes, I am talking about Bella Swan’s mum)
The I’m-doing-the-best-I-can type– and I don’t mean that sarkily, I mean it in a sweet kind of way. I mean, they’re a bit rough around the edges, often still learning the ropes and can even have a ton of problems, but at least they’re trying to do the best they can! Like Lara Jean’s absolutely lovable dad- who hasn’t had it easy but makes things work.
Totally tyrannical– not to be confused with a tyrannosaurus rex, though they have that temperament. Nope, these are humans that have about as much virtue as a toilet brush. Take Mr and Mrs Wormwood as an example- they literally punished their daughter for reading. It doesn’t get much worse.
The Villain All-Along– often slick and charming, this one can totally take us by surprise, cos they were the villain all along (chorus of sighs). I did think of an example here that was super spoilery, but decided not to go with it, so instead I’m just gonna say Valentine from Mortal Instruments) cos we all know he’s the bad guy.
Annnd I think I’ll leave it there for now. Which parents in books do you like the most? Which ones get on your last nerves? Let me know in the comments!
great list!
1-2 irritate me as well. also the the over protective type!
i’m not against having irritating parents in a novel but sometimes it’s too much!
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Thank you!! Totally get that!
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The Weasleys. Warm, caring and a bit bonkers. My kind of people.
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Ooh perfect answer!!
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I think that’s a solid list, ranked appropriately.
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Thank you very much!!
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I think cath’s dad from Fangirl fits category 3.😊
( btw, my computer crashed and that’s why I’ve not been in touch with u about the buddy read on twitter. I’ll catch up as soon as everything is on track).
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ooh you’re totally right 😊 Ah no worries!! Take your time 😀 Looking forward to it though! 😊 And computer troubles suck- hope it gets resolved for you soon!
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Dahl always could write the best “worst” adult authority figures!
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Totally agree with that!!
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Nevada Baylor’s mother and grandmother. That whole family really. Best family I’ve read. They are like a blend of practical and badass when it comes to their charges especially the world they’re in! Great post! Now I’m gonna be thinking about other parents in books that doesn’t instantly come to mind right this second haha
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ooh cool!! Thank you!! hehehe
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I love this post! ten pages into a book you can already tell which category the parents fall into. Number 1 and 2 are the ones I always talk about in my book pet peeve posts. They just seem so unrealistic
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Thank you! hehehe so true!! hehe yes I feel the same about those too- they just never make enough sense to me!
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One of the things I liked most about To All the Boys was Lara Jeans dad. It was refreshing to read about a parent like that. One thing I have noticed in YA is that a lot of the time the main character only has one parent!
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I *totally* agree!! Yes that’s really true, I’ve noticed that too.
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Well this was pretty thorough. It’s already quite a pain to even see relevant parental authorities in stories nowadays too! Great list. 😀
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Thank you!! hehe I know right 😉
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Ohh great list! I do love seeing parents like Lara Jean’s one in books: the ones that are there, trying, even if sometimes they’re a bit clueless ahah 🙂
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Thank you!! Yes me too!! 😀
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I’m usually just thankful a character has parents. Most of the time, in YA in particular they’re just missing. The MC seems to have brought themselves up (and maybe a half dozen siblings too).
Even worse is the bad parent, the one who is too preoccupied with their own stuff or abusive in some way. Can we please just have some nice parent or parents who may not always be the best but who pay attention and put their kids first? (Basically the Weasleys)
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hehe true. Gosh yes the Weasleys are amazing!!
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Amazing list! I agree with you, most of these parents are the absolute worst… Sometimes I just wish people would include “normal” parents for once (but where would the fun be in that, right? How would it influence the plot then?)
Don’t get me wrong, I love fucked up parents as much as anyone. But it’s become so much like the norm that I feel the need to go back to simpler times 😂 (I love #3 and #4 though)
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Thank you so much!! hehee that’s so true!! I’m the same- I want some normal parents- but then again I also want a good plot (that makes sense). And the trouble is when they’re nice, they also seem to have to turn a blind eye to everything, otherwise they’re interfering in the plot too much. Hahaha yes so true!! Thank you!
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Omg the parents that are there but barely annoy me SO MUCH. Of course there are parents out there that are barely present in their kids life and barely notice anything that goes on with them, but the amount of parents we have like this in YA books makes it really annoying haha
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I know right!!! They legit drive me crazy!! Yes I totally agree- also, yeah, they exist, but they always seem to turn up in *every* book- and it gets a bit exhausting. Plus what irritates me about those types is they’re always presented as “cool” when I reckon in real life they’re more likely to get yelled at to “be a parent!” Very annoying! 😉
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Huh, what a great idea for post! You’re a walking/talking/writing arsenal of good ideas and deep thoughts! 😀 no but really… not joking…
anyway… I think the type of parent I tend to dislike in the book is the one that is too busy with themselves to actually be a pernt (fits with your item 2 I think?)- those moms that are too bimbo and chading their youth to see that their child is literally falling down the drain… It’s always very frustrating for me to read and I hate them! 🙂
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blimey- typos…
*parent
**chasing
I am in horizontal position with the laptop hence the horrible typing.
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LOL!!!
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hahahahahaa thanks so much!! Ahh gosh yes I agree with you- what bothers me so much about them especially is that the author often describes them as this totally lovable parent figure and I’m just all “grrrr”. hehehee snap!!
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Great list!! And so relatable to a lot of the parents I read about in books!! 😅 xx
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Thank you so much!!
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It’s okay 😊 xx
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I still find it depressing how lackluster the parental landscape of characters is in books. So very rarely do they resemble anything close to what’s going on in reality. I do understand that a lot of the time it just needs to be that way for plot reasons, but parents exist. For the most part, they also care. No one expects them to be perfect, but yeah … you summed it up pretty great in your list!
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hehe yes that’s fair! hahahah yes that’s true. Who’d a thunk it- parents who care? Lol, I can be mostly ok with lousy parents in books- but some of them- especially ones that are there but totally unobservant for the sake of the plot, tend to get on my wick 😉 Thank you!
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Yeah, it works sometimes when they are lousy but in regular contemporaries where the familial life is pretty normal and they are just none existent and let their kids go out at all hours and what not, I just feel super weird about that haha
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Yes that’s very true- personally when I read contemporaries I prefer to have the parents loving and there for their kids- cos it just makes more sense for the book. haha so true!
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I will definitely read this later. Just found out!
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The non-absent absentee ones drive me crazy. If the parents are going to be completely useless, just kill them off in the beginning haha.
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hahahaha so so so true!! If they’re not going to act like they’re there, then why do they have to be there lol!
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This list made me smile!! My favourite type of parent is the “trying their best” parent?’, who always warm up my heart 🙂
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Ahh I know I love those types!! 😀
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The “Too Dumb to Live Let Alone Breed” parents. They haven’t the slightest clue about their children and potential issues. They literally live lives where they completely ignore symptoms of issues going on with their children.
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hahahahaha oh my gosh so true!! That’s a brilliant term for it!!
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You’ve summed these up so well, I think I’ve encountered all of these types in one book or another! I find the 1st type really annoying too, but I think the 2nd type is even more annoying. Something about the ‘cool cat’ parent has always felt a bit try-hard to me in books. I get especially irritated by scatty, artistic mother characters who drift around dreamily… maybe because it also feeds into the ‘artists have to be constantly off with the fairies and unaware of what’s going on around them’ stereotype, and in my personal experience, it’s not an accurate one! I’m much more of a fan of the last three types… although it’s terrible for the children, villainous parents are just so much more fun to read about!! 🙂
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Thank you!! hehe I know right 😉 I can never quite decide which one is worse tbh, but possibly 2, cos like you said they’re so try-hard and they’re supposed to be “good” parents, even though they’re so clearly not. hahaha yes I totally get that!! Oh gosh totally agree with you- I can definitely appreciate some properly dastardly characters in books for sure!! 🙂
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Haha yeah, I can see why you’re undecided, both types are pretty irritating (and similar, as you mentioned) – and that’s so true, the fact that they are supposed to be “good” and clearly aren’t makes them all the more annoying! Glad you like the dastardly ones too – I guess there’s a difference between an annoying parent character and a parent character you love to hate 🙂
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hehe yes for sure!! So true!!
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