Hello all! Well, according to the powers that be over at WordPress, this just so happens to be my third bloggiversary! (well the anniversary of when I got the domain name- we’ll get to what a lousy blogger I was when I started out in a mo 😉 ). To mark the occasion, I took inspiration from Laura @LFBook‘s fantastic “Things I’ve Learnt as a Blogger” series (really recommend checking it out) and decided to share what I’ve discovered about blogging in the last three years!
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Before I even started, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t hold back. Aside from being a pretty frank person, I will admit that a lot of this came from being told what I could and couldn’t say IRL. Because I’m a contrarian I decided to stick two fingers up to the busybodies who wanted to tell me what to do 😉 And you know what, even though I’ve touched on some controversial topics over the years, some of which have made me nail-bitingly nervous, I’m glad that I did it. Granted, sometimes I have had to deal with people less than pleased about what I have to say- and you know what? That’s okay. I can deal with it, I’m a big monkey 😉 (also, I have bananas and I’m not afraid to use them 😉 )
On the flipside, I don’t regret the things I didn’t say. Yes, that’s right, I can actually bite my tongue sometimes 😉 As I mentioned in my Drafts, Drafts and More Drafts post, there are posts I’ve decided to shelve for various reasons. It can be good to weigh things up- for instance “will this gripey whiny post about some schmuck annoying me make me feel better?” If the answer’s no, I might just leave it.
Another thing I’ve learnt is to expect the unexpected. Not a lot of people know this, but the first three months of blogging this site was like a virtual graveyard. I’m pretty sure we all go through that at some point tbh. And it’s not like I was expecting anything to grow out of it- frankly the whole project started as a way for me to *shout into the void*. But man, I have to admit that when I started interact more, it became *so much more awesome*. Massive thank you to Zezee for being the first ever person to tag me in something and consequently share one of my posts (yes, I remember that sort of thing 😉 ) I was staggered after that when people started reading, commenting and actually enjoying the content. Which leads me onto…
Blogging is only as fun as you make it! Like I said, I was a lousy blogger when I started and while I had fun writing the posts, it got SO MUCH BETTER once I started to relax and try out new things. I really love making people laugh and if I can make just one person crack a smile, then that’s a good day 😀 I realised how much better blogging is when other people can get something out of it.
Speaking of my early days as a blogger, people are not lying when they say consistency is key. I mean, of course I started out doing that wrong as well 😉 And I may sound really thick for stating the obvious, but I took a while to figure out that when you post more, more people are likely to read *mindblown* 😉
Now I have to say to take that last one with a pinch of salt- because obviously IT IS OKAY TO TAKE BREAKS. (And yes, I’m writing that in capitals, cos I still sorta need to learn that one!) The thing is, blogging can be stressful, we all have lives beyond our blogs and heaven knows we can’t be online as much as we’d like to. In fact, I know that I’m going to have to take a break soon. And that’s *okay*. I still have to keep reminding myself not to apologise at the start of every blog for some misplaced guilt, cos contrary to what my British-brain thinks, constantly saying “sorry!” can be a bit of a pain.
Also, ARCs are not the be all and end all. I can’t be the only person that didn’t have the faintest idea what an ARC was when I started. But when I found out, it would have been easy to get swept up in the allure of *advanced review copies*. That said, I’m really glad I didn’t immediately jump on the ARC train. And, when I found out, I didn’t immediately jump on the ARC train. I let myself think about it for a whole year, before deciding that, yeah, I could fit about one a month into my schedule. Everyone does ARCs differently, which is cool, but I’m very selective cos of that. Even with this small number of requests (combined with how often I get rejected lol) I *still* manage to fall behind in the reviewing side of things, so I’m glad I have this strict rule in place. Especially cos it means that I do a happy dance every time I get an ARC 😉 Which brings me to…
Celebrate every milestone. Sure, I may not shout about everything all the time on here, but I guarantee that I’m SCREAMING WITH JOY INSIDE. Watching this teeny corner of the internet grow has been amazing and I so appreciate each and every one of you that’s makes the blogosphere the most wonderful place to be! And I wanted to say a personal thank you to everyone who nominated and voted for me in the Annual Book Blogger Awards. I’ve been too busy to get involved but it made me feel very honoured. And with that, all that’s left to say is…
What have you learnt from blogging? Let me know in the comments!
Three whole years and we still don’t know your name!!
Congratulations lovely. Yours is my very favourite blog and you’re the first person (animal) to regularly comment on my waffle so thank you. I love how honest you are and it’s definitely made me braver with my opinions (I *think* that’s a good thing). I also love that one day you’ll be reading Chaucer and the next some YA fantasy and you’ll be equally insightful and enthusiastic about both. You get five bananas from me x🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌
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hehehe! Thank you very much! hehe I love your posts!! And thank you so much!! (it is a good thing! At least I *think* so 😉 ) hehehe thanks!! LOL! Thank you so much!! You’re so sweet!! 😀 😉
PS my name’s not a state secret, if you send me an email over at theorangutanlibrarian@gmail.com I’ll give you my goodreads details (it’s my personal account, so alas, no pictures of monkeys 😉 ) Sorry about the jumping through hoops, I just don’t connect it with my blog.
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I’m disappointed. I really wanted your name to be secret for a reason, like you were in witness protection or a famous celebrity or something 😉 (still not entirely convinced you’re not Stephen Fry). I totally get why you wouldn’t connect your name to your blog (horrifying fact: my name isn’t technically Lucinda, although it’s pretty close) so no pressure to out yourself if you don’t want to 😊
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hahahahaha 😂😂😂 Is it wrong to say I wish I was Stephen Fry? (although I’m sure a lot of people say that they wish they were Stephen Fry). hehehe I get that, and yeah, obviously I have reasons, but nothing too exciting 😉 But I’m okay with a few people knowing as long as it doesn’t link back. And no worries- I totally get if you would rather not too (I meant to say that before) don’t feel any pressure! 😊
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Hey, remember that time you decided to be less British and stop apologising so much? I don’t think it’s working. This conversation is literally;
“Sorry, I don’t know your name”
“Sorry, I’ll tell you if you email me. Sorry about the hassle!”
“Sorry, I didn’t want to force you into telling me”
“Sorry, I didn’t mean you had to!”
😂😂😂😂😂
I will email you xxx
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Party on, dudes!!!
So lovely to read this post and mega hyper super duper congrats on the anniversary… I think the anniversary is actually more of a happy even for me than for you… no, really… because I am so glad I found you in this mahoosive blogosphere in the first place. You’re my blogging role model! 😉 Keep going good guns and don’t forget to take that deserved break 😉 ❤
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Thank you so much!! hahaha aww you’re so sweet!! You’re *my* role model!! I love your reviews! Thank you so so much!! 😀 ❤
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🙂 ❤
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I feel you on the ARCs! I know so many people who are 50+ reviews behind on Netgalley & I’m floored by how that happens?! That would also stress me out to no end. I don’t like having more than 3-5 open ARCs at one time <3. Congrats on the milestone!!
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Congratulations! All good points that you mentioned in your post and I’ll keep those in mind. Keep up the good posting!
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Thank you so much!! 😀
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Happy Bloggiversary!! ❤ Amazing post, as always! 🙂
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Thank you so much!! ❤ 😀
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Congrats on three years in blogging!
You did well to keep the interest for this long. I am new to blogging, less than a month old you can say, so pretty new. While consistency is not an issue, the correct timing to come up with creativity and to sustain it for a long time is a goal. For the time being, I am enjoying new blogging horizons and learning gradually. Your insight will go a long way. Thank you.
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Thank you very much! I think that makes sense- I think it can be hard to keep at things- that’s why it’s good to take breaks 🙂 I’m glad you got something out of it!
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Happy blogiversary!! Lots of great advice. I admit, I sometimes struggle with the first two points you mentioned (I’ve got a few rants in my drafts folder and I sometimes wonder if it’s cowardice or good sense that’s keeping me from publishing them), but they are important ones to work at 🙂
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ACR means nothing to me (new blogger in the house!), and I’m ok with that. 🙂 Love your posts, and I look forward to following. I’ll have to study up on the banana rating system – how many bananas to hit Top Monkey rating?
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No worries- that stands for “advanced review copy”- and I had no idea what that was when I started out either. Thank you very much! And on my about page I describe it as “practically perfect in every way”… so that lol 😉
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Congrats! Three years! You are such an inspiration to me. Keep up the good work! Your tips make it clear, having a good attitude helps so much. I took time off and realized I wanted to continue. Pace yourself and don’t stress. ♥️
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Thank you so much! Aww you’re an inspiration to me!! Your blog is so professional and I love it!! Ah yes I really agree with you there 😃 ❤
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Congrats!! I always appreciate some advice from bloggers I love 🙂
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