Let’s Discuss: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Maybe I should start by saying that I loved this book. It’s a chatty, self-help memoir, told by a therapist as she navigates therapy. I listened to it on audiobook, which really with the intimately conversational format. I felt like I was perched on the couch next to Gottlieb, listening to her clients and listening to her, going through the deeply personal journey of therapy with them.

Indeed, one of Gottlieb’s strengths as a writer is building up a clear picture and making you feel closer to the stories she shares. In an amazing feat of empathy, she transposes the feelings of others onto the reader. And through that, I felt like I was in the chair, working through the issues myself and learning to expunge my own thoughts.

While deeply personal at times, the book is fundamentally universal. Like all the best therapists, Gottlieb holds up a mirror to her patients (ie readers) and makes us really see ourselves. Not in an affirmative, vacuous *you go girl* way, but by giving us the uncomfortable truths we need to push through tough times. The book doesn’t act like a timid Yes Man- it’s hard-hitting and sometimes difficult to get through. Yet, it opened my eyes, gave me real insights into myself and genuinely helped me come to important realisations- and you can’t ask for more than that.

Like a therapy session, the book flits through a timeline. You have to force yourself through the messiest bits first, before you can reach any sense of clarity. You have to work to come unstuck from the complicated quagmire of human existence- and only then can you be rewarded. Because, even if we lose sight of it in the middle, the process is structured around an ending. And that ending is finding the way to breathe easier and move through life with just a little bit more grace.

Rating: 5/5 bananas

So, have you read this? Do you plan to? Let me know in the comments!

23 thoughts on “Let’s Discuss: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

  1. I have this book on my shelf and after this post you have given me the motivation to go grab it 😀 Great review! I could use some eye opening realizations about myself right now lol

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  2. This book is about gaining more self knowledge in order to deal with some particular issues? Or to help you to define eventual issues? In what way goes this book then beyond the general chitchatting and bragging about how she helped some carefully selected cases to resolve their problems and leave psychotherapy behind them? I once deeply affronted a wealthy American woman who ran to her therapist with all kinds of trivial issues by saying that she should leave psychotherapy for those who have some really serious mental problems and learn to make up her mind by herself. To be honest, I had the impression that the therapist was just using her as a milking cow by making her too much dependent on counseling.


    1. Well for starters, it actually is centred around her own journey through therapy, with some other stories along the way. I wouldn’t have said she was bragging either. She was really open and honest about her perspective and struggles with clients. And also have to add a lot of the main examples of people she was trying to help had very serious issues eg cancer, loss of a child, addiction, abuse. I think it was insightful to read about how people learn to get through difficult situations

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  3. This sounds excellent! I adore therapy and have been in it for years. I couldn’t imagine my life without it now. My therapist has helped me through some serious struggles when that light at the end of the tunnel wasn’t visible at all and I’ve learned how some of the most amazing growth can happen when we’re “feeling alright.” Basically I think therapy’s the best :). So this sounds right up my alley! Thank you for putting this on my radar! And, honestly, there may be a trip to the bookstore in my future today…

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